One Simple Technique to Help You To Become A Confident Speaker by Kate Cocker
Date9th August 2017
“According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that seem right? That means to the average person, if you have to go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy.” Jerry Seinfeld
Even if you don’t suffer from full blown ‘glossophobia’ (fear of public speaking), most of us have a sense of dread and anxiety before we face any kind of audience. Yet speaking up is a sure fire way to advance our careers and life choices.
This means we need to find a way to get confident when speaking in public, and quick.
Create Your Own Standards – Eliminate Everyone Else’s
Fear feeds off comparison “I’m not as good as Geoff”, uncertainty “I’m not sure how I’m going to come across” and peer pressure “what if they laugh at me?”
Create confidence by taking control of these factors.
It’s time for you to decide who you are going to show up as when you speak, and give yourself your own identity.
The first thing you can do before you even get in to your confident poses is to choose three words to describe yourself on a really good day: three positive words which say something about who you know you are.
There are infinite possibilities:
It really doesn’t matter what the words are so long as they are words about you and you connect with them.
Get those three words firmly in your head and then deliver whatever you want to say with them at the forefront of your mind, showing the audience those qualities and being authentically YOU.
From now on, you can be your own judge and use your 3 words to decide how well you did on stage that day. This automatically kills comparison (you know what it is to be you), uncertainty (you know how to deliver to those three words) and peer pressure (it only matters that you have performed to your standards).